Communication

A few days ago, I read a friend's blog where she mentioned about communication. She talked about how she remembers from her father about the willingness to talk and listen. I now wonder if she truly knows what that means.

Communication is usually about getting the message across to someone. It doesn't quite count if the other person doesn't receive it, or isn't interested in the message. Herein lies the problem. You know, I balk at people who tell me that they know a lot about communication, or they have lectures and seminars about it, because quite frankly, communication is subjective. If there was someone who is so good at communicating, then why can't they get EVERYONE out there to listen to them? Even politicians can't get everyone on their side, so who can truly claim to be a master at this? I remember being confronted by someone at my workplace who was pissed off, and when I tried to tell him that I was merely following orders from my superiors, he said "don't hide behind that excuse. I know what you're trying to tell me because I give lectures on communication." Pfft. I wish I could ask him then that if I lost my job, can he save me with a lecture?

Lately, communication is becoming my problem. Not that I actually want it to be a problem, it's just that in our selfish little world, most people would rather talk than listen. I know I can be like that too. But really, there are certain individuals out there who simply don't understand the concept of 'less is more'. Or that bloody awful song that goes "you say it best when you say nothing at all." Take my colleague for example. She is a person that has a constant need to speak. To everyone. Usually to my other colleague across the room (you know, women). So I'm like, fine. But she has no limits to this, and guys like me, we can only tolerate so much. But being the nice guy that I am (well, sometimes), I can't tell her to shut the fuck up, right? I don't like making things ugly if I can help it.

But the worst part about bad communication is the fact that some people just don't get it. They don't 'get' it. Either they get it wrong, or they are so oblivious. Or they make an assumption and stick with it because it's more convenient than asking me why. I know people who fit in all three situations, and I just wish so very very much that I can talk some sense into them. If they only understood where I'm coming from, then maybe we can work things out and I'll be a happier person with less grey hair.

To sum things up, I'll admit that I can be a difficult person sometimes, but I'm not an impossible person. If you take the time to talk to me, you'll find out who I really am.

Ten Minutes

I haven't had a good week. It's been a rollercoaster ride for almost every single day, being bugged by numerous things like Facebook failures, the hot weather, work and most especially, people.

Then I found something online to cheer me up, and I thought, why not share it with you. If you have ten minutes to spare (and some extra time to wait for this thing to load), check this out. I'm sure you all know who Arnold Schwarzenegger is, and if you've seen his films, this video is a real treat. Enjoy.

New Skin

So what do you think of the new look? Cool huh?

Well, to be honest, it's not much different from the old one. Sure, the background is different, but that's about it. I actually wanted to change the whole layout, to something with at least 3 columns. But I had problems with pulling it off. It's a technical thing, and I only know two people who are qualified to help me with it. Until I can seek that kind of help, I'll just stick with this for now.


But that's not all. Check out FF, the sister blog. I changed it too. And again, not very different, but it will do for now. I was having problems with the last one, the background stopped appearing for some reason. Hmph. I really wish I was good at blog layouts.


I realized once again that I don't take the time to write in here anymore. It's frustrating. Things aren't the way it used to be. I'm not the same person I was back when I first started FR. Or maybe I am the same, but the world around me has changed. I was much happier back then.

Without some good people to converse with, all I have left is me. And that's not much. So why did this have to happen? Why does the world have to turn its back on me? Why leave me now when I am not ready to be left alone?

Questions, for which I have no answers. I pray that someday my sanity can be restored, so that the next thing I write in here will be more meaningful than being about the way this place looks.


And I pray for one more thing: Lord please get rid of the hot weather. Thank you.

R&R and Celebration

It's disconcerting how long it has been since I've had the time to post anything in here. But I guess part of it is my fault. I've let other things like Facebook take up much of my online time that I've neglected my little written home here.

Besides that, the past 3 weeks have been super hectic down at the office. There has been a million and one things to take care of. That's what happens when your bosses want to get everything done before the Chinese New Year rolls in. And I've been nothing short of exhausted all the while.


Which is why I am looking forward to my time away from work for about a week.


Time to catch up on old pastimes. Time to get as much rest and sleep as possible. Time to celebrate the new year. Time to watch more TV because the stuff on show is just starting to get better.


When I think of a new year (even though I just have since 2010 has just started), I always think about the time that has passed. And I always think of the previous year, and how tough it has been. Sometimes I think about the tough times so much, I forget about the good things I have. So God, thank you for keeping me and my loved ones together, and I pray you'll help us make things easier for this new year.

There are still other unsettled business to ponder. Some of which I had wanted to post here, but never found the time to do it. Perhaps I'll do so in the next few days. I had a handful of good ideas to talk about, so we'll see.


Wishing you all Sin Nien Kuai Le;)